Monthly Archives: February 2011

BFFs on Screen and in Print

*** Spoiler Alert! This post includes spoilers for last week’s Glee and Lie To Me season finale, and includes details about some other older films and books***

I wanted to think about something beautiful tonight, so I turned on the part of the latest Glee episode where Kurt confesses to Blaine that he thought Blaine wanted to ask him out and not that strange guy from the store, and then Blaine admits that he only pretends he knows what he’s doing. And I thought how nice their friendship was, that they were both able to tell things to each other that were obviously difficult to admit or say out loud. Then I suddenly realised that in most of the books I read and films or shows I watch, my favourite thing about them are the beautiful friendships. So, I decided to count ten of my favourite fictional friendships (some of them with some delightful angst and romantic undertones). In no particular order, because, really, how can you put a number on friendship?

Harry and Hermione (from Harry Potter books, by JK Rowling). I think, it’s beautiful in its simplicity, for the lack of a better way to put it. I mean, people both in the books and in the fandom always think there’s more to it, but I think, that if it wasn’t pointed out to them in Goblet of Fire by the Daily Prophet, Harry and Hermione would have never even thought of it, and I love how little the whole deal affected their relationship. Because there honestly is just that – true friendship.

Harry and Sally (from film When Harry Met Sally). This is one of those with romantic undertones which actually become the main colour of the relationship in the end. This one has the cuteness I love in the situation when totally opposite people become friends. It’s so fun to watch how they clash at first and gradually actually become attached to those annoying details.

Sherlock Holmes and Doctor Watson (from Sherlock Holmes stories and numerous screen adaptations). This was actually the very first fictional friendship that stood out to me in my life. It might not seem like an equal partnership at first glance; Holmes is definitely a dominating personality, but it’s Doctor Watson who tells the stories, so it’s really his voice we hear. They may not express their feelings or anything like that, but each knows that the other would save his life.

Cal Lightman and Gillian Foster (TV series Lie To Me). Now, this one has some serious romantic angst going on and it’s a huge part of this friendship’s charm: you can see two best friends and business partners, who seemingly are also very much in love (well, at least now we know for sure that this is true on Lightman’s part), and apparently don’t quite know what to do about that.

Kurt and Blaine (TV series Glee). Well, I already pretty much covered that in the beginning of this post. At first it seemed that this was going to be a sort of mentor-student relationship, but I guess now it’s clear that both of these boys are pretty clueless about how to handle romance and stuff – and I like that the writers decided to point that out, it gives new tones to the relationship. They both have a lot to learn and I can’t wait to see how this relationship develops.

At this point I notice the apparent lack of female-female friendships in my list, but none really come to mind, so if anyone knows any books, films or TV series featuring a beautiful friendship between female characters, let me know, I’d love to check them out.

Drey and Dan (from film Half Nelson). This one falls into the category of highly questionable morals, being a friendship (for the lack of a better word) between a drug-addicted teacher and one of his female students who is somehow connected to a gang or something. However, I love this film from an artistic point and it’s all about the friendship.

Daniel and Karen (from film Love Actually). The beauty of this one is not very ‘visible’ but that’s a big part of why I like it so much. In the beginning of the film, Daniel calls Karen, because he literally has nobody else to talk to. It seems that they’re completely honest and tell each other everything.

Emma and Mr Knightley (from Emma, by Jane Austen). Again, this evolves from friendship to love, but it’s the bickering unaware-of-stronger-feelings stage of it that I love most.

Abby Sciuto and Jethro Gibbs (TV series NCIS). This isn’t your conventional frienship, it’s actually more of a father-daughter relationship, but it wins in cuteness.

And I also just realise now that all the friendships in this list are pairs. That’s not to say that I don’t think a wonderful thing is possible among more than two people. But when you take more than two friends, every two you take have slightly different dynamics.

Rory and Lane (TV series Gilmore Girls). Finally! Two girls best friends. Best friends since kindergarten, they may fight sometimes, but ultimately they can trust each other no matter what. And I like that they are just always sort of there, together, no need to make a deal out of it.


Evolving Beyond Hate

A sort of local election is coming up in this neck of the woods, and the city is flooded with political ads. Now, mostly, I just ignore them, but yesterday one of them caught my attention. And not in a good way. Actually, I found it so offensive that I ripped it off the lamp-post it was glued to (it wasn’t a big poster, but still), something I don’t do, because I believe that everyone has the right to express themselves. However, it was so politically incorrect (ironic, isn’t it?), derogatory and disrespectful, that I couldn’t help myself, because, I guess, respect is higher up my list of important things. It basically said that the party was fighting for a city without African-American, gay and gipsy people (needless to say they chose words that aren’t particularly nice, to put it mildly). I’m neither of those, but I think that everyone deserves to be treated and addressed respectfully.

I really don’t understand all this hate towards people who are somehow different. My evolution theory professor would say that this is natural primal biological response to different individuals, or someone who comes into the territory. This is supposed to preserve population’s genome which is best adapted to that said environment. But I would think that human species has evolved beyond that. I mean, when we talk about people, we talk about social evolution, evolution of the mind, not biological evolution. I think, if someone considers themselves smart (and I think everyone does), they should think, instead of relying on the basic instincts written in our genes. And really, when you look at it, there are more differences between two people of the same race than there are differences between two races.

I admit I’m not very good at Bible stuff, but I do believe that somewhere in there it says “Love thy neighbour like yourself”, it doesn’t specify that your neighbour has to meet some sort of criteria in order to be “lovable” (now, I’m quite certain that ‘love’ isn’t really meant literally in this case, but it doesn’t really matter). And at this age, with internet and everything, pretty much everyone in the world can be called our ‘neighbour’, in some sense, can’t they?

Everybody talks about bullying and hate at schools and stuff like that these days, and everyone seems concerned about stopping it; but really, when adults don’t show respect to others, how are children supposed to learn that?

Hoping it came out nicely and respectfully as I intended,


P.S. In instances like this, I like to think about global warming, hurricanes and stuff – they don’t really care about how you look or who you sleep with; and when we’re in love or when we’re sad, we’re all the same, so, what the difference do these differences really make?

News Commentary

I don’t usually follow the news (it just annoys me), but sometimes the news has a way of following me. A couple of weeks ago a 13-year-old girl from my home town was murdered. Everyone has been pretty upset ever since. And a lot of similar stories started emerging. And the stories go something like this. A kid meets someone online, and they talk, and they meet and then they get hurt. Many people blame social networking sites. I mean, I understand them to a certain extent. It is human nature to look for something to blame. But as someone who thinks that Facebook is a great idea, I also think it’s unfair to put all the blame to it. It’s sort of like when people blame guns when someone gets shot. People shoot people. Guns just help out. But people would hurt other people even if there were no guns. Same, a child may encounter creepers without the help from the internet. Admittedly, the internet speeds things up.  But I think the main problem here is the fact that the whole internet phenomenon is still pretty new, and most of the parenting generation probably doesn’t understand it that well. When your child sits at home in front of the computer, you feel like nothing bad can happen to your kid. But that’s not exactly true. Sure, there’s probably no immediate physical danger, but there are other types of abuse. There have always been people who want to hurt other people. That’s why you teach children not to talk to strangers and be careful and stuff. So why not also teach them not to talk to strangers and be careful while online too? That would make sense to me.

Feeling pretty opinionated,